We’re missing the civil in our disobedience and our discourse

bruce hetrick2 150x150 We’re missing the civil in our disobedience and our discourseTwenty years ago, a Connecticut company developed some new surgical tools. The tools helped doctors operate more effectively, helped patients heal more quickly and saved lives.

One tool was the surgical staple, used to close wounds and incisions instead of using hand-sewn stitches. The staple is now, well, the staple in many kinds of surgery.

In order to sell its new staples and staplers, the company had to help doctors learn how to use them. While physicians might start out practicing on foam rubber, that material didn’t behave the same way as live tissue.

That’s where things got messy.

You see, there aren’t many human guinea pigs out there. Few of us are willing to let doctors try out first-time surgical techniques on our gallbladders, colons, hearts, livers, etc. (Would you want your abdominal cavity used as a beta site?)

So the doctors learned by doing surgery on animals. The animals included dogs. And some animal rights activists didn’t like that. They believed the lives of animals used in medical research and training were as sacred as those of any humans or animals who might someday be saved by some new medical technique.

As you might expect, there were angry letters, protests, legal actions and demands for government intervention.

Then things got ugly. One day, one of the animal-rights activists planted a radio-controlled pipe bomb near the company chairman’s parking spot.

The apparent assassination attempt was foiled by the company’s security team. No one was hurt. But the game was forever changed. Someone arguing for the sanctity of all life had tried to take one.

Last week, George Tiller was serving as an usher during Sunday morning services at Reformation Lutheran Church in Wichita, Kansas. His wife, Jeanne, was in the choir.

At the start of the service, members of the congregation heard a small pop from the foyer.

“We just thought a child had come in with a balloon and it had popped, had gone up and hit the ceiling and popped,” one churchgoer said.

The pop was a gunshot. Tiller, a 67-year-old physician who performed abortions, was on the receiving end. He died.

The Associated Press reported that Tiller had been the target of other violence.

“A protester shot Tiller in both arms in 1993, and his clinic was bombed in 1985,” said one story. “More recently … Tiller had asked federal prosecutors to step up investigations of vandalism and other threats against the clinic out of fear that the incidents were increasing and that Tiller’s safety was in jeopardy.”

It was.

The Wichita Eagle reported that Tiller is “the eighth person and the fourth doctor killed in abortion-related attacks,” although “this is the first killing of an abortion provider in more than a decade.”

Once again, someone arguing for the sanctity of life had taken one.

At Notre Dame a few weeks ago, anti-abortion protestors violated minor laws in the hope of changing a major one; they exercised their right to speak freely in the hope that the President of the United States would be denied his.

In April, Indianapolis anti-abortion protestors threatened violence against emcees, hotel officials, sponsors and their families because of their ties to a Planned Parenthood fundraising event.

And decade after decade, governments in this country kill convicted killers, believing that their example will deter others from killing. (Go figure.)

If you believe passionately in some cause, if you’re certain grave injustice has occurred or will continue, if you know your way is correct and all others are wrong, how far will you go to make your point? What will you sacrifice to get attention? What means will most likely persuade people to your point of view?

The exemplars often hailed—be that Jesus or Gandhi or King—preached and practiced nonviolence. They used voices of reason, not shouts of anger. They spoke up, instead of telling others to shut up. They fired their followers with insight, rather than inciting riots with firebombs. They called for change, rather than calling their opponents’ names. They did not kill as a way to stop others from killing.

I sometimes read the online rants sent in response to media stories. I often watch as politicians hurl partisan sticks and stones. I’ve even heard Rush Limbaugh’s hope that our leaders fail just so he and his ilk can be proven right.

Too often, we seem to think that mere volume will change minds; that insulting the decision-maker’s intellect, reasoning ability, leadership skill, stature or skin color is the best way to bring her or him around to our way of thinking; that hypocrisy—even to the point of murder—is the best means to an end.

Don’t buy it. The less civil we are in our discourse and our disobedience, the less likely we’ll be to change anything.

9 Responses to “We’re missing the civil in our disobedience and our discourse”


  1. 1 Liz

    If we Americans are tolerant (or in the case of some commentators, encouraging) of the extremists in our midst, how can we possibly point fingers at the extremists elsewhere in the world, including the Taliban and Al Qaeda, Mexican druglords, communists who “arrest” journalists, etc.? Our nation was founded on mutual respect, and the further we get away from that, the more dangerous we are to ourselves.

  2. 2 Andy

    Well stated - regardless of one’s convictions about anything, civilization requires civility.

  3. 3 Phil

    Bruce, There is so much in this article, and I think Isaiah said it best, “Come let us reason together.” But what happens if reason does not produce change for the good? Then I believe that is where civility, faith and trust nust come into play–that God does have everything under control and his plan is unfolding, and who are we to force our change on someone else’s free will? God is our judge and we should not take that into our own hands. We need more civility in this world and getting ourself out of the way. Keep on!!!

  4. 4 Marsha

    I am so ready for people to be civil again! I just can’t understand why people think that just because someone believes differently than you that they are BAD! Can’t people just be okay with the fact that sometimes two good people can arrive at different conclusions for different reasons - and then just discuss it reasonably?!?!

  5. 5 Lew

    Excellent words Bruce. Civil is as important as discussion. When did the walls against civil discourse go up?

  6. 6 CWP

    Just read your article out on the porch a few minutes ago and I couldn’t agree more with what it said.

  7. 7 Gene

    You are absolutely right. I have felt this for a long time.

  8. 8 DM

    Bruce:

    I am a long-time IBJ subscriber of at least 15 years. I read your column when it is in the IBJ and Bill Benner’s column every week. I do not always agree with your point of view, but most of the time you at least have an arguably legitimate point of view.

    This week I was very disappointed in the liberal, cliche-ridden article you presented, including the obligatory shot at Rush Limbaugh. I expect more from you. I am of the Rush “ilk”. I do not hope President Obama fails because I want to be proven right, but because I want him to “fail” in the implementation of policies that I believe are, in the long-term, detrimental to the country. The stimulus, cap and trade and single payer health insurance are in my opinion wrong and poorly thought out. Also, the closing of Gitmo, elimination of secret union ballots, the handling of the auto industry crisis and the constant apology for the U. S. is just plain pandering to special liberal interests.

    Instead of writing the fluffy stuff you just had in the IBJ, why don’t you do real research? Please, write an article on the scientific principles behind man-made global warming. I have done a lot of research and the only thing I see so far is “glaciers are melting, carbon dioxide levels are rising - Global warming must be caused by carbon dioxide.” Proper research might even change my mind.

  9. 9 Beth

    I had the mistaken impression that blogs and the Internet would show that we value and learn from the discourse. So often, comments become personal and polarized.

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